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People

The older I get, the more lessons I learn about this world we live in. I sometimes talk to someone and develop brand new eyes based on what this person sees when they view the world. People don’t know how you see the world until you develop a relationship with them, and vice versa. I have dropped my guard down when it comes to being friends with people, because I have come to learn that being friends with people just because you have things in common, closes out so many doors for you. I didn’t realize how sheltered I grew up, until I moved oceans away and developed relationships with people from very different backgrounds. The more I expand my little circle of friends, the more knowledgable about things I get. I don’t mean being close to every tom, dick & harry, but just having a conversation with someone who you would “never talk to” can surprise you sometimes.
Having moved to the midwest, I have met so many different people, I would never really have imagined meeting. Most of these people are small town people and some are from bigger cities, and it is interesting to see how people view the world. At times I am shocked at what people view as “important”, but I quickly remind myself not to judge others based on how they see the world. I have had conversations with people about where I come from and what we do…and have been judged (sometimes harshly) for placing importance on various things.
It is a hard balance and sometimes very infuriating, but all of these brings me peace, when at the end of the day, I think of how insanely blessed we all are to have met and shared our experiences. I may not like their view of the world and they may not like mine, but we all take away something from it. It softens our hearts when we get introduced to someone else’s view of the world, without us even knowing. That little exposure gets us thinking.

p/s: I know my featured photo doesn’t go with the post, but I liked the message 🙂

What a beautiful life

Hey lovely people!

I hope your holidays are going as wonderful as can be! Can you believe its almost christmas because I am still trying to wrap my head around it..seriously the year seems like its just started yesterday. I am excited though, I put up some lights and will be putting up more decorations soon, and my house smells like the holidays. Its so nice to come from work or school and enter into a “holiday-home-like” little apartment..oh you have no idea how satisfying this can be.
It has been so foggy lately down here, like zero visibility foggy and driving is kind of scary especially in the early a.m. But I am holding up well, super excited to be doing my finals soon and be done with this quarter, graduation….I can smell you from here haha

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I am one of those people whose always itching for an adventure, on my days off I love to go visit new places, mostly through hiking or visiting a new town. Adventure is good, right? it keeps us interested in every day and looking forward to the next. I however realized how ordinary life can be beautiful, by changing my attitude and finding the beauty in the routine, everyday life.
I found some quotes and lovely poems that I shared below. Do you guys read poems?, I used to hate them, I thought they sounded stupid, but people change (insert thoughtful face)
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“Life is amazing, then its awful, and then its amazing again.
And in between the amazing and the awful,
its mundane, ordinary and routine.
Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful,
and relax and exhale through the ordinary. Thats just living
heart breaking,soul healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life.
And its breathtakingly beautiful”

“Good morning, I hope you find today extraordinary. Are you in love with the whole damn world? You should be, its glorious, and I can’t see a better way to experience life than being madly in love with everything” – Victoria Erickson

“How we spend our days is of course how we spend our lives”

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“So many roll their eyes at weekdays filled with the dread of the mundane. They’ve long forgotten that there are things other than passports that’ll sweep us away.But we’re breathing. The earth is turning beneath the ground, mere months away from bursting into bloom. The light constantly shifts, brightens, darkens, and moves. There are seasons within seasons within seasons. Seek out new reasons to be thrilled with the familiar, or find a new cafe or passion or road to drive down, or wander to a different place or doorway or sweeping, serene view. Allow the world to work its way into your heartstrings and still existing adrenaline, as everything is fascinating when you go deep enough. Reach for the natural wonder that still breathes inside the pulse of this, the world, and you.”
– Victoria Erickson

Outfit details:
Old navy – vest (old)
Pants – GAP
Shoes – amazon
Top – Marshalls
Scarf – Local store (Leavenworth, wa)

Have a wonderful week everyone.
xoxo

Shyness

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When I wrote my first monologue of a post at 18 years old, I never thought at 25 years old I would ever talk about shyness..seriously, it would have seemed like a retrogression of some sort, but I have realized, the older we get, the more self-aware and wiser we become, and I have truly grown from that 18 year old girl I used to be.
Are you one of those people who are just going about life and people around you start asking things like, “why are so quiet?, do you want to say something?” etc etc, if yes then stick around..
Growing up, I never would have categorized myself as a shy person/quiet, I always had a group of friends that I talked to, but people especially grown ups (teachers and family friends)would always tell my parents I was quiet or shy, and they gave it a negative connotation, making it seem like it was a bad thing..which made me want to get far away as possible from that label.
In college, shyness/being quiet became even more of a thing because I was in a different country going through a very different social adjustment, with college students who constantly pointed out my differences and socializing just became exhausting to me unless it was with Kenyan people (who obviously I clicked well with).
Out of the school environment, I still get the “quiet girl” label with my interactions with others, and at first I just wondered…is it such a bad thing to be quiet?, I know at times it may make situations a bit awkward with new people, and its required sometimes to feign interest in someone so as to diffuse this awkwardness. It also may make you seem uninterested in others around you, and sometimes you may be….but it paints as rude (in places like a friends house, a dinner or a party etc)
Most times, as a quiet person people may tend to take advantage of you, and thats where you have to clearly set boundaries and say “no am not happy with that and stand your ground”
It is ok to be naturally quiet, there’s nothing wrong with it. Find people who you click well with and be good friends with them, in social situations, fake it! haha it may become exhausting but if its unavoidable, you’ve got to.
Quiet people are also underestimated a lot, and are some of the smartest people I know. For expats living away from home and away from your comfort zone, different social environment with unfamiliar social behaviors may make you a shy/quiet person because you are afraid of embarrassing yourself due to lack of knowledge in certain things that are familiar to others around you, and also people may approach you less or even ignore/lack to acknowledge what you have to say just because you are so different. However, over time, we adjust and are able to socialize easily.
Lastly, if you are this type of person, don’t be intimidated by the crowd..i mean, whats the worst that could happen? (unless your life is on the line haha), keep on living your life and know that there are very many people out there who feel the same way you do…and we are all just people!

If you prefer seeing me talk about the topic, click on the video below…warning: I have a cold and may have blood shot eyes and a strange voice haha, please bear with me, I really wanted to talk about this. I would appreciate your feedback too 🙂